Monday, August 19, 2013

Summer, first thoughts

I haven't blogged in so long that I forgot my blog url.
As a matter of fact, I still wouldn't be blogging but my email account is giving me fits when I want to upload pics.
These are for you specifically, Erica and Danielle.

Last summer was pretty rough for me.
This summer has been fabulous.
Here are a few highlights.:
Making fairy houses... 



They really were having fun...


Face-painting by our fabulous friend and nanny, Marilin...




Eliana met Glow, our friend Holly's horse. Holly graciously shares Glow with anyone. 



She also met this colt, and I forget his name. He is a rascal - look at that tongue!


The kids met their second cousins one (noisy) weekend in Indianapolis.

Lots of swimming, but not as much as last year, since the weather has been so mild.



And, of course, we went to Henry's swim meets. (He's getting ready to swim his leg of the relay.)


Stay tuned...I'll add a few from our vacation soon!

Thursday, February 9, 2012

Birthdays

We celebrate all 3 of the kids' birthdays between November 27, and January 31.
Lots of families have that non-stop birthday bonanza like us.
After I became a mother, I understood the deep significance of birth days.
Maybe as much for the mother as the child.
So, I like to make birthdays special.

Elle had her first friend party.



Then we went to my in-laws for Thanksgiving, and she celebrated there too.


Then we returned home and it was her actual birthday and so we celebrated again.


Jia, since she is only 2 and friend-limited, had one party.
Just the 5 of us.
She was happy. We were happy.
(I adore this picture even though it's not topnotch. She is so psyched to have that ladybug helmet!)

Henry is exceptionally relational.
Since he didn't have preschool on his actual birthday, we invited some friends to celebrate with us.

Then his grandparents came and we celebrated some more.


Then we had a pool party for him and 10 or 11 friends.
(I left the camera at home.)
One child at Henry's party cried when he found out I didn't have goody bags.
His mom is a good mom, I know.
He's just been trained by expectation.
No judgement.
But it is revealing.

Parenting is a process.
For me it is.
Honoring my children matters to me.
Yet, through this season I realized that we overdid the birthday attention this year.
Seriously.
I googled how much parents spend on children's birthday parties.
Wow.
For a larger party, when all is said and done, about $200-$300.
Yeah, (sigh), sounds about right.
Some of the links were shocking. shocking!
40k for a 6-year-old party, and she even got a car!
What?#@#%$?!!

The world's wealth is sorely unbalanced.
Occupy Wall Street's tagline is "We are the 99%," (right?)
My friend Julie pointed out that on the world scale,
we're the 1%, and the rest of the world is the 99%.
Thought provoking...

I'm not suggesting depriving our kids.
I just want to make wiser decisions.
Invest the extra $100 or so into a college fund,
or feeding an orphan for nearly a year.
In the process I hope Henry, Eliana and Jia develop character that values the giver more than the gifts;
that understands who they are and what they have are utterly separate
I'll have to be patient.
It could take 30 years, or so
I too am a work in progress.
I too need to learn these same lessons.
My birthday is coming up...

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Xmas card pics

We never got around to printing and sending out family xmas cards this year.
Steve's clients got their goodies though, and that felt like a vital feat.
I took some amazing shots of the kids.
If you scrolled through them consecutively, it's a slow-motion movie.
Anyway, here are some of my favorites.
Happy New Year!
Eliana getting Jia ready...


Henry wants to kiss his princess...


 Eliana is not persuaded....(love that!)


Come on, it's Henry, your brother!


Lu(cy) wants in on the fun...


 She does it her own way...


Elle is patient...








If I had sent just one to family and friends, it probably would have been this last one (below). This picture represents the kids pretty well- dressed up, ornery, with the dog by their side. But, it's not the norm. The norm is all the others--the interruptions, the negotiating, the making up, the unseen (jia was playing with stickers in one shot--they eventually ended up on her cheek). 

So often I find I have a one-dimensional view of myself and others. I believe my life should go a certain way, assume that others' do. Much of the true living, the true, hard and ugly loving goes unseen, untouched, silenced. For myself I've decided to talk about it more. Talk about the so-called weeding, and tilling, and the work that goes on in the winter, as the soil rests.  For now, here is one beautiful moment with Henry, Eliana and Jia.


Thursday, November 10, 2011

Fall pics

The kids and I visited a pumpkin patch with Henry's preschool. Eliana reconnected with a friend from her class last year. Sweet,  no?










Who knew I would ever enjoy Halloween so much? The treat for the parent is watching the fun had by young ones.


The gang...




I adore this picture! And, I am so glad I got a side view of Leilah's unicorn costume. 
 I didn't get many of Henry; he was too ninja-fast to capture.

Friday, February 18, 2011

what i liked most about hong kong

About a year before Steve and I decided to adopt from China, I asked him where he wanted to visit.
You know, anywhere in the whole world-type-of-question.
Without much hesitation, he said London and Hong Kong.
Two springs later we were in London.
With Henry.
And Eliana--in my belly.
Look at Henry, playing at a water park in front of London Bridge.
And then there I am at the Easy Hotel. 
I am smiling and giddy because we are about to leave. 
Insomnia plagued my nights there.
Insomnia and an active 15 month old.
Active--asleep and awake.
 So...back to Hong Kong.
Steve and I left two days early for China.
We spent it in Hong Kong.
I really, really liked Hong Kong.
Mountains.
Exotic trees.

Salt water.
Out door escalators.
The Peak.

Hello Kitty.

So much to report about that city.
I think I liked the open markets the best.
Lame?
Don't care.
The bird market.




 The flower market.




The fish market.
Not to eat.
Alive, swimming around coral and all kinds of green and blue and gorgeous.
No pictures allowed.
Oh well. 
I will remember Brian and Tony(short for Antoinette).
A couple we met at the Peak.
They had flown to Bali and married on the beach.
Then to Thailand and out of Hong Kong.
They are generous souls.

Henry just turned 4.

People ask if I can believe it. 
You know, time flies and all.
I can believe it. 
3 kids later.
A business later.
London.
Hong Kong.


A full, beautiful, crazy life.

Sunday, February 13, 2011

Jia!

After nearly five years, we completed our adoption of a daughter from China, November 29, 2010. We call her Jia, pronounced like Gia. Her name is part of the name her orphanage gave her, which is Jia Jing. And, even though in Chinese it's pronounced like "Ja," we "americanized" it to Jia.
O.k.
Now that is out of the way...

I've got loads on my mind about life in the past few months.
I won't ever get to it all.
But, here are the highlights...
By the way, I am having camera issues.
It pains me that this has happened now.
That I can't crop and edit the way I would like.
But I have waited far too long...so here goes
Installment #1
This is the moment I got Jia, adoptive parents often refer to it as "Gotcha" day.
Come to think of it, maybe that wasn't the moment I got her.
That could have been about 40 minutes afterward, because the moment I got her she was balling her brains out.
Then we gave her some milk.
You can't tell, but boy was she sweating.
I learned quickly that is what she does when she is anxious.
The orphanage director and a woman who is still unknown to me, brought  her to us at our hotel in Nanchang.
I can't remember the hotel name....
This next picture is bittersweet.

Bitter because Jia is so clearly sad and unsure.
Sweet because of Steve.
Sweet because it's at the Civil Affairs office, where we legally became her parents.
Even though we were officially her parents from that point forward, there was a lot of paperwork and immigration paperwork that had to be completed before we headed home.

After we adopted Jia, we spent most of our mornings visiting places of interest, like this  one... it's a picture of a door at the Chen Family Temple in Guangzhou.
I took it mostly for Henry's sake.
Then the rest of the day we spent at our hotel.
Jia slept.
Then, while Steve worked, we would try to find a place to play.

These were taken on our first or second full day together.
I detest the lighting.
I was thrilled to get a grin.
A sign of contentment and interest.

I feel so humbled to have Jia.
So sad that China lost its most beautiful baby.






She has begun to reveal herself more fully to us.
When she arrived she weighed less than 15 pounds.
After a week with pneumonia and diarrhea, she weighed 16.5 pounds.
She didn't crawl, pick up food or put much weight on her legs.
She now does all of that, and climbs the stairs and is "cruising."
Most of all, she is talking and animated more and more.
And, she needs to work on those skills, with these two.
They were exuberantly waiting for her arrival.


They can't get enough of her, most of the time.
Me either.